We need to talk.
Listen: every relationship has its ups and downs, and couples fight about all sorts of things. But sleep science is increasingly proving that many of those fights may not be necessary. (Like, seriously, you’re just overreacting.)
Last year, an Ohio State University study of 43 couples found that while all couples experienced conflict at some point, some argued constructively and even used kind language, while others argued in a hostile, negative way. Most interesting to us? The researchers found that the hostile couples were getting the least sleep.
“When people have slept less, it’s a little like looking at the world through dark glasses,” said Janice Kiecolt-Glaser, a relationship scientist and director of the Ohio State Institute for Behavioral Medicine Research. “Their moods are poorer. We’re grumpier. Lack of sleep hurts the relationship.”
The OSU research team invited the couples to the lab and prompted them to talk about issues that regularly caused arguments. The researchers filmed the conversations, then evaluated them to determine whether the interactions were positive or negative, and whether the responses were hostile or constructive.